Besides the fact that you lose your mental and emotional freedom when you refuse to forgive or simply can’t forgive, every single day, you risk losing a part of your physical health and wellbeing.
Physical illnesses and ailments almost always accompany the lack of forgiveness. I spent years nursing some kind of physical pain or another due the anger and unforgiveness I harbored. Here are just a few of the ailments you can expect to accompany your unwillingness to forgive:
- High blood pressure
- Immune problems
- Chronic pain
- Heart attack
New, Undesirable Character Traits and Conditions Developed
- Bitterness. Bitterness is born of hurt and I was hurt beyond measure. I was hurt to the point that I was numb. My bitterness grew as he constantly made note of it to me and anyone else who would listen. He loved telling people that I was evil. I wasn’t evil, but I sure was the epitome of bitter. The animosity I felt toward him was actually visible. You could see the bitterness I felt for him.
- Resentment. I felt resentment for everything as a result of my unwillingness to forgive him after a while. My view of life itself became jaded. I was squeezing that hatred so tightly that it was impossible for me to open and lift my hands to God and ask for help.
- Depression. Unsuppressed emotions result in depression, but depression that results from unforgiveness is even more dangerous. A person suffering from unforgiveness depression cannot trust other people to share his/her feelings, which further triggers negative stressors and worsen the situation.
Unforgiveness: The Poison to Your Soul
Finally, unforgiveness is against the will of God. Matthew 6:14 says:
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. We don’t have a choice but to forgive if we are to live in accordance with His word.
I’ll leave you with this: the inability or lack of desire to forgive can and will kill you. No one has the right to occupy such a large portion of your thoughts and feelings that you’re willing to die because of the wrong they’ve done. Free yourself.